If you had five words to describe yourself,
                                                                     Five words you'd like to be remembered by,
                                                                          Five words that tell who you really are,

                                                                    What would those five words be?

Everyone carries with them a self-identity-the core interests and values that make you who you really are, deep inside.   The exact priority varies from day to day: 

    After an unprovoked attack, you might become Patriotic.
    When faced with social injustice, you might become Religious.
    On a holiday, you might be filled with Loneliness.

But who are you most often, on most days?  What do you work toward?  What gives you a deep sense of fulfillment?

THE QUEST
People devote an entire lifetime seeking the essence of their existence; the meaning of their life.  It's a process of trial & error.  You may try out a certain role, but cast it aside if it only brings emptiness.  You may pursue a certain path, only to backtrack when it turns in the wrong direction.

There are many distractions-perhaps a pleasurable indulgence; or maybe a numbing fog of thoughtless oblivion.   You may give up the Quest, deciding that it's hopeless.   You may build walls to contain the constant yearning.

Even so, there are five words that describe you.  Now.  As you currently are.

        What are your five words?

GENDER
Is Gender one of your five words?  ...Or is it merely a distraction?

Do you look at the world through Gender-colored glasses?  Does being female or male determine everyone's value?  Is your universe measured by the length of a penis?

"Marriage is only between two people with approved genitals."
"Genital appearance is The Crucial Factor for being a good parent."
"Your salary will be determined by the size of your genitals."
"Your personality--your inner identity--was determined by how your genitals looked when you were born."
"Gender Identity Disorder occurs whenever a person doesn't listen to their genitals properly."

"The most important thing you can know about me is that my chromosomes didn't exactly match the appearance of my genitals when I was  first born....  It's been the guiding compass for my entire life."

"I really like you--you mean the world to me--but I need to check your genitals before our relationship can go any further."

Society has become OBSESSED with Gender, maybe even with just sexual biology.  Anatomy sells cars, anatomy limits choice, anatomy provokes heresy.

        Do you embrace society's obsession? 

    Does anatomy limit who can work in your office?
    Does anatomy limit who can pray at your church?
    Does anatomy limit who can be your friend, love or partner?    ...Or my friend, love and partner?
    Does my anatomy embarrass you?

My Gender is NOT the path to YOUR personal fulfillment.